Recently I was told my child has a strong personality. My daughter is quiet, reflective, highly empathetic. She is hilarious and independent. She is wise.
I have been called a strong personality my whole life. It annoys me. I view it as a passive aggressive way to say you are intimidated by me or at least uncomfortable with me.
Ironically, it is usually women who say I have a strong personality. Men just call me strong.
How is it that a quiet child and her powerful mother both get labelled as strong personalities? I am exploring the idea that being independent and self aware put you outside “the system”. When I hear strong personality, I hear that I cannot be easily controlled or manipulated. I hear that I am not what you expect.
For years, I believed it meant I had to tone down. I worried I was not kind. And yet, people who meet me often comment on my kindness and generosity. Ultimately, I love myself and the growing embodiment of spirit that deepens in me every day.
So let me challenge you: what belief arises about YOU when you think another is a strong personality? Or, if you have been so labelled, who are you when you don’t exist in that label or belief?