“From our absolute centre, there is an incredible capacity for allowing everything to just be. Nothing needs to be pushed away. Nothing needs to be grabbed on to. Nothing is demonized. Nothing is glorified. That – I would call that Unconditional Love.
This is a love that allows everything to simply just be as it is and tenderly just holds it with open hand, and allows it to go, too. Allows it to go the moment it wants to go. There isn’t the slightest urge to impede the departure of what has arisen, when you are in your absolute centre.” Christopher Hareesh Wallis, Light on the Path course
It is remarkable to me how similar this description of unconditional love is to death, or the acceptance of death. But then again, unconditional love is ultimately about acceptance.
I have come to know both lately. It seems trite to say the near death of my dog taught me about consciousness, but it did. I remained in awareness, even while processing sadness and sorrow, celebrating his life and the flow of loving support from family and friends. I did not lose awareness; it was enhanced.
Now, I would say that expressing unconditional love is harder for me. Death requires us to let go and there is no other choice. But something about love is grabby, to me. It has a holding, and a holding on. I am sad to say that I have been less conscious awareness in loving relationship than in encountering strangers. In longer relationships, my karma and psychology and egoic patterns are alive and well. Of course, that is why we have relationship: to let us see our energy patterns mirrored in the dynamics of the relationship.
I long less to be the object of unconditional love and more to be the vessel or flow or giver of it. To be that definition of it as Christopher describes it speaks to my heart’s desire. To be loving awareness speaks to my soul’s desire.
And so it is.