I turn 50 in a few days. It means nothing to me, I have discovered. I may stop counting, not as a fear of age but as a celebration of reality. I don’t feel 50 although I don’t know what it would mean to feel 50. I have the blessing of feeling alive, as alive as I did 20 years ago, while having the awareness and consciousness of Now.
I don’t have a Bucket list – a list of things that one has not done before but wants to do before dying. I thought about it, because I love lists, but instead I learned something. Here are 3 Reasons to NOT have one.
1. Giving to Life
There are two approaches to Life. You can try to take as much as you can from life, or you can give as much as you can. Will anyone mention your trip to Hawaii when you die or will they talk about your impact on their lives? Which reflects your deepest values?
2. You Don’t Know When You Will Die
A bucket list assumes a period of time to get things done. People die in their 20s, 40s, 90s. Wouldn’t it make more sense to live today to whatever vision or awareness that guides You? Too many bucket lists are about fear of dying instead of living.
3. You Live to Your Beliefs Not a List
Make a list, and look at it. What is your relationship to that list? Do you see yourself there? Did you add “Go Skydiving” because you want to do that? Why haven’t you done it? Is your list a way of changing who you are or affirming something inside you? Use your list to surface your beliefs and explore how they point to who you are.
If there are things you want to do in life, by all means do them. Do it to be alive. Do it to celebrate the flow of life.